Let’s start a line of thought with some premise:
One: No individual is responsible for the feelings of others, we are accountable for our emotions, and we own them completely the good along equally with the bad.
Two: If we are not aware of our emotions and in control of there impact, they will affect our judgment and world view.
Three: Judgments should be made based on reality without our filters being applied As much as possible.
Four: outcomes that are decided by facts that influence emotions we have not processed create further separation as we increase the emotion to counter it.
Five: this increase in emotion creates more conflict internally and externally.
This is why we have so much conflict, both internally and externally because we do not accept that people we do not like do things that we can question, but when reviewed are not wrong.
The dissidence from this creates a further emotional response and adds to our disconnection and conflict.
You see it in politics, especially over the last two years where people have been pushed to resign because of perceived wrongdoing or an externally placed moral code that is not in alignment with the rules.
As a result of this, you have:
– a finance minister had to stand down over texts someone over the age of consent.
– A CMO resigning because she drove in a car with her family from one house to another (a household is a group of people, not a property)
– Another CMO being forced to resign because he met with his married lover
– People calling for the resignation of an MP who drove to his mum and dads to drop off a birthday present and talked with them in their garden.
Are these actions the best decisions? possibly not.
But I don’t have the right for my emotions to make a judgment on them.
I don’t know if the drive to drop off a birthday present with his parents was also because he was extremely concerned about there wellbeing and need an excuse to check on them.
The drive to a second home with your children and family is because the kids were struggling with their routine being changed, and it was affecting them.
Do any of these things affect their ability to do the job? No
Were they perhaps mistakes or poorly judged decisions? Possibly
Perhaps should they in some cases be offered support or at the very least not have people harassing them and their families in the street.
We are human we make decisions that are different from the ones others would make, and we need to accept this.
There are several people I dislike who have achieved great things for others, should my dislike for them take away from what they have achieved.
If you are standing shouting about achieving a more compassionate world, then start by having one whare, your judgments are not made by emotional responses, and your pitchfork stays in the garden.